How Are Anger and Hurt Connected?

Anytime you are angry, you are also emotionally hurt.

Anger is the top layer of emotion that buries the emotional hurt. It’s easier to be angry, because then we don’t have to admit our hurt. Oftentimes, we deny that we are hurting, because to admit hurt is to admit vulnerability. Admitting vulnerability to others can create an opportunity for rejection. Rejection is emotionally hurtful.

Hurt is accompanied by anger, because anger is our defense mechanism, our ego protector.

So if you’re angry, seek to understand how you are hurt. Once you understand how you are hurt you can begin a plan to heal.

Once you are healed of a particular emotional hurt, then the associated anger will disappear, too.

Published by analyticalperspective

Heather Blackwell is a CBT-certified mental health coach and Psychology subject matter expert (SME), dedicated to bringing Psychology insights to the self-help community. She studied two masters degrees in the areas of Forensic Psychology and MFT, and has 15+ years’ experience in behavioral analysis under her skill belt. Her discussion topics include, but are not inclusive to, dating experiences, interpersonal relationships, maladaptive behavioral development, self-identity development, self-help, holistic mind-body health, and nutrition as it applies to mental wellness.

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