Do You Have A Choice?

The Year is 2006 Janie sat with her counselor feeling frustrated. “I lost my job.” She had replayed the scenario in her mind multiple times and she had found no way out. It seemed Janie had no choice … … The day before Janie’s meeting with the counselor, Janie was checking her work schedule. The human resources person had numerous employees, so Janie didContinue reading “Do You Have A Choice?”

Do You Have A Victim Mentality?

One of the most amazing concepts I have learned is … emotional vs. practical problems. Who knew there was a difference? Practical problem–a situation that makes it difficult to achieve a goal Emotional problem– a reaction to a practical problem EXAMPLES: Practical Problem                         Continue reading “Do You Have A Victim Mentality?”

I Offended You? That’s “Your” Problem

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. Again , I thank Dr. Albert Ellis for his amazing insight. For me, this is one of the most amazing concepts I have ever learned … emotional vs. practical problems;Continue reading “I Offended You? That’s “Your” Problem”

Nobody Is Twisting Your Arm But You

Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world he is responsible for everything he does. It is up to you to give [life] a meaning. -Jean-Paul Sartre The Year is 2006 Janie sat with her counselor feeling frustrated. “I lost my job.” She had replayed the scenario in her mind multiple times and she had foundContinue reading “Nobody Is Twisting Your Arm But You”

What Did You Expect? Let Me Guess…A Rose Garden?

Insecurity also comes in the form of disillusionment. The following are examples of disillusionment, complaints with subsequent reactions: Complaint: He doesn’t talk to me.Reaction: I’ll nag until he does talk. C: My life is stressful.R: I will let stress control my quality of life. C: He didn’t do the laundry like I asked him to.R:Continue reading “What Did You Expect? Let Me Guess…A Rose Garden?”

What Goes Around Comes Around, So Play Nice

In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.— Albert Schweitzer I love the movie, “Pay It Forward” and if you haven’t seen it, I strongly suggest it. TheContinue reading “What Goes Around Comes Around, So Play Nice”

When Emotional Reasoning Disturbs Your Zen

Did you know that you have an emotional base line? Anything above the base line is positive or “good,” while anything below the base line is negative or “bad.” Positive emotions are helpful. They impassion us to reach beyond the bubble in which we live, to embrace living, to embrace ambition, to embrace others; however,Continue reading “When Emotional Reasoning Disturbs Your Zen”

Fallible Human Beings … I’m Talking About You, Too

Winston Churchill was the Prime Minister of Great Britain and best known for rallying his troops to victory during World War II; he was also known to suffer from Depression. I begin with his quote: “Success consists of going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” Good vs. Bad Is there good and bad? IContinue reading “Fallible Human Beings … I’m Talking About You, Too”

I’m Not Wearing Your Dog Collar

Every patient carries her or his own doctor inside. — Albert Schweitzer First, let me give you my direction. I’m going to be discussing Abraham Maslow, his hierarchy to personal freedom, and how he has erred; identity, individuality, independence, self-worth; the ideas self-belonging and self-love; and how the erroneous mental mistake of “belonging to somethingContinue reading “I’m Not Wearing Your Dog Collar”

Ode To Closet Cowards … I’m Talking About You, Too

While the individual man is an insoluble puzzle, in the aggregate he becomes a mathematical certainty.” —Sherlock Holmes Today, I am using State Representative Margo Davidson (D-Delaware) and Allan Brauer, blogger, as examples of how personal insecurity causes social discord and in extreme cases, tragedy. I believe these separate incidents exemplify irrational thinking, which isContinue reading “Ode To Closet Cowards … I’m Talking About You, Too”